I Know What To Do – So Why Don’t I Do It?
It is a familiar place – that place of knowing what to do, but not doing it. If we were all living consciously we would all know what to do, how to do it and why we were doing it, and we would do it all with peace and happiness. But it takes awareness and practice to learn to live consciously most of the time. So until then, let’s continue understanding self-sabotage and learning how to keep it to a minimum or eliminate it from our lives.
The next principle to learn after we become aware that we are self-sabotaging is:
(2) Letting go of resistance. Whatever we resist persists. So what do I mean by resistance? When we become aware of an area in our lives that we are self-sabotaging, we need to just bring our awareness to it and resist the urge to judge it and ourselves. When we beat ourselves up and criticize ourselves for doing it - that is resistance. When we constantly tell ourselves “I shouldn’t be doing this,” or “I am so stupid to keep doing this,” that is resistance. Instead, we just need to bring our attention to it, be curious about it and embrace it as a part of ourselves. We can take a look at it and say, “Hmmm, that’s interesting,.” or “There I go, eating sugar again when I know it isn’t good for me.” The more we just graciously bring our attention to it without judgment or criticism, the sooner it will just fall away. Seriously, it’s that easy. Give it a try! Just pick something that you have been trying to change for a long time and instead of getting upset when you do it (or don’t do it…whatever IT is) just say “Hmmmmm, there I am doing (or not doing) this again. Isn’t that interesting?” And then see what happens. Each time it comes up just observe it without judgment and then let it just BE. You will find that it loses it’s hold on you.
To be continued…