4. Use Energy Tools. OK, we have become aware of our self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors, we have ceased to resist or judge them when we observe them and we have started journaling the patterns we see happening. The next step is to search out energy tools that will help us to clear those patterns and be able to change our thoughts and beliefs to be conscious and constructive – creating what we really desire in our lives.
You can find energy tools by researching them online, by reading books on the subject or by hiring a coach that uses energy tools with their clients (something I do and have great success with). Do your research and find tools that have been proven effective in the lives of people you know.
Energy tools usually include a combination of meditations, visualization and affirmations which have been designed to by-pass the conscious mind and reach the sub-conscious mind. This is very important because most of the sabotage we engage in is done unconsciously due to emotions and vibrations that reside in the sub-conscious mind. This has been scientifically proven and much research has been done on this truth, especially in the fields of sports, wealth creation, health, happiness and peace. Finding these tools and using them consistently can and will result in your ability to change undesired behavior and self-sabotage so that you can create and keep the health, wealth, happiness, relationships and peace that you desire.
To be Continued…
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
Part 3 of 5 on Self-Sabotage - Journaling Your Behavior
3. Journaling. Once we become aware and watch our negative thoughts and behaviors, the next step is to journal the patterns of self-sabotage that we see going on in our lives. Sit down in a quiet place with some “alone time” and a journal and pen. Contemplate the thoughts and behaviors you have become aware are self-sabotaging and that you have begun to watch. Make a list of the thoughts or behaviors that you want to change so that you can move forward into action and make the changes you desire in your life. Give each thought or behavior a degree of intensity from 1 – 10, 10 being the strongest. Pick the thought or behavior that bothers you the most. Go to the first recollections you have of being alive and come forward, writing down every memory you have of experiencing that thought or behavior. Come forward to the present time. Now go back and observe all that you have recorded and observe any patterns that appear. This can be very enlightening and may shed some insight into what triggers your sabotaging thought or behavior.
To be Continued…
To be Continued…
Monday, November 9, 2009
I Know What To Do - So Why Don't I Do It?
I Know What To Do – So Why Don’t I Do It?
It is a familiar place – that place of knowing what to do, but not doing it. If we were all living consciously we would all know what to do, how to do it and why we were doing it, and we would do it all with peace and happiness. But it takes awareness and practice to learn to live consciously most of the time. So until then, let’s continue understanding self-sabotage and learning how to keep it to a minimum or eliminate it from our lives.
The next principle to learn after we become aware that we are self-sabotaging is:
(2) Letting go of resistance. Whatever we resist persists. So what do I mean by resistance? When we become aware of an area in our lives that we are self-sabotaging, we need to just bring our awareness to it and resist the urge to judge it and ourselves. When we beat ourselves up and criticize ourselves for doing it - that is resistance. When we constantly tell ourselves “I shouldn’t be doing this,” or “I am so stupid to keep doing this,” that is resistance. Instead, we just need to bring our attention to it, be curious about it and embrace it as a part of ourselves. We can take a look at it and say, “Hmmm, that’s interesting,.” or “There I go, eating sugar again when I know it isn’t good for me.” The more we just graciously bring our attention to it without judgment or criticism, the sooner it will just fall away. Seriously, it’s that easy. Give it a try! Just pick something that you have been trying to change for a long time and instead of getting upset when you do it (or don’t do it…whatever IT is) just say “Hmmmmm, there I am doing (or not doing) this again. Isn’t that interesting?” And then see what happens. Each time it comes up just observe it without judgment and then let it just BE. You will find that it loses it’s hold on you.
To be continued…
It is a familiar place – that place of knowing what to do, but not doing it. If we were all living consciously we would all know what to do, how to do it and why we were doing it, and we would do it all with peace and happiness. But it takes awareness and practice to learn to live consciously most of the time. So until then, let’s continue understanding self-sabotage and learning how to keep it to a minimum or eliminate it from our lives.
The next principle to learn after we become aware that we are self-sabotaging is:
(2) Letting go of resistance. Whatever we resist persists. So what do I mean by resistance? When we become aware of an area in our lives that we are self-sabotaging, we need to just bring our awareness to it and resist the urge to judge it and ourselves. When we beat ourselves up and criticize ourselves for doing it - that is resistance. When we constantly tell ourselves “I shouldn’t be doing this,” or “I am so stupid to keep doing this,” that is resistance. Instead, we just need to bring our attention to it, be curious about it and embrace it as a part of ourselves. We can take a look at it and say, “Hmmm, that’s interesting,.” or “There I go, eating sugar again when I know it isn’t good for me.” The more we just graciously bring our attention to it without judgment or criticism, the sooner it will just fall away. Seriously, it’s that easy. Give it a try! Just pick something that you have been trying to change for a long time and instead of getting upset when you do it (or don’t do it…whatever IT is) just say “Hmmmmm, there I am doing (or not doing) this again. Isn’t that interesting?” And then see what happens. Each time it comes up just observe it without judgment and then let it just BE. You will find that it loses it’s hold on you.
To be continued…
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Identifying and Overcoming Self-Sabotage - Part 1 of 5
Self-Sabotage – we all do it to some degree, some more than others, but we all do it. But why? None of us starts out the day, or the month or year…or our lives saying,” I am going to sabotage things that I really want to be, do or have in life.” So how does it start? Why do we do it?
The answer to this question lies in our subconscious mind. Until the age of around 7, we are all just subconscious minds running around. The conscious mind has not formed yet, so we are open and susceptible to all images, words and emotions that we are exposed to and interact with during that period of our lives. After that, our conscious minds come into play and we go about thinking, reasoning and living life. Also, what we habitually think about with our conscious mind even as we grow older eventually sinks down into the subconscious mind. What we don’t realize is that we are really being controlled by those emotions (energetic vibrations) that still reside in our subconscious minds. And here is where our fears lie…quietly and unconsciously driving our thoughts and actions. Once the subconscious mind accepts an idea, it goes to work to begin to execute it. It works for the bad idea as well as it does for the good idea. Thus, we can think we want one thing, but if the subconscious believe differently, it will create the opposite and we will self-sabotage.
So, how are we able to discover our self-sabotage and change it so that we can create the health, wealth and happiness that we really want in life? Below is the first step in a 5 part series on changing self-sabotage so that we can move ahead into creating our desired results:
1) Awareness. We must first be still and become aware of where we self-sabotage. Sitting down and journaling where we observe ourselves sabotaging what we really want in life can give us a map to follow. Start out by listing what your goals and dreams are in life – you don’t need to get detailed at this point, just allow yourself to write down what you would love to be, do or have in your life if you had a magic wand and could just make it happen with a wave of that wand. Then start to think about why you don’t have them and any instances you can consciously think of where you were headed in the direction of achieving your goal or dream and something happened to stop it. Write it down and don’t judge it as good or bad. Just become aware. This is the first important step.
The answer to this question lies in our subconscious mind. Until the age of around 7, we are all just subconscious minds running around. The conscious mind has not formed yet, so we are open and susceptible to all images, words and emotions that we are exposed to and interact with during that period of our lives. After that, our conscious minds come into play and we go about thinking, reasoning and living life. Also, what we habitually think about with our conscious mind even as we grow older eventually sinks down into the subconscious mind. What we don’t realize is that we are really being controlled by those emotions (energetic vibrations) that still reside in our subconscious minds. And here is where our fears lie…quietly and unconsciously driving our thoughts and actions. Once the subconscious mind accepts an idea, it goes to work to begin to execute it. It works for the bad idea as well as it does for the good idea. Thus, we can think we want one thing, but if the subconscious believe differently, it will create the opposite and we will self-sabotage.
So, how are we able to discover our self-sabotage and change it so that we can create the health, wealth and happiness that we really want in life? Below is the first step in a 5 part series on changing self-sabotage so that we can move ahead into creating our desired results:
1) Awareness. We must first be still and become aware of where we self-sabotage. Sitting down and journaling where we observe ourselves sabotaging what we really want in life can give us a map to follow. Start out by listing what your goals and dreams are in life – you don’t need to get detailed at this point, just allow yourself to write down what you would love to be, do or have in your life if you had a magic wand and could just make it happen with a wave of that wand. Then start to think about why you don’t have them and any instances you can consciously think of where you were headed in the direction of achieving your goal or dream and something happened to stop it. Write it down and don’t judge it as good or bad. Just become aware. This is the first important step.
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
I AM SO I CAN Book Launch Set for Nov. 2, 2009
Self-esteem – ahhhhh….that personal quality we all strive for in ourselves and want to make sure we develop in our children as well. Author, speaker and life coach Charlene Nelson remembers a third grade classmate coming up to her and giving her a long list of what was wrong with her, including, but not limited to: “Stupid looking hair, ugly buck teeth, skinny arms and legs, too many moles and big ears.” Woo! She remembers as a young girl naively accepting all this criticism and crying at home that evening to her parents that she was not enough….not pretty enough, not good enough, not smart enough, not popular enough, not….enough! Her parents, in their attempts to help, told her to go back to school the next day and promptly tell that little boy all the things that were wrong with him – which she did! (which included, you’re mean!) It helped in the immediate sense of “take that you jerk!” but in the long run, there was a subconscious part of her that continued to believe those statements through much of her life growing up, which led to….well, that’s another article for another day.
Fast forward to today. After working through her subconscious untruths, Charlene went on to live her purpose and dreams as a wife, mother, successful business woman, artist, entrepreneur and now author and speaker on the subject of Conscious Living and Conscious Leadership. She was also instrumental as mother and coach in helping her daughter, Megan, work through her own journey of self-discovery and self-assurance as she developed her business leadership skills and her thriving photography business.
Together, they have recently published a children’s book, I AM So I Can which helps parents teach children the power of our thoughts and words in creating self-esteem and success in life. When parents are empowered with the information that is taught simply and beautifully through statements and photographs in this book, they can help their children know and create from the truth of who they really are.
The public is invited to celebrate the launch of their book; I AM, So I Can, on Monday, November 2, 2009 at the Salt Lake City Library, fourth floor conference room, from 6:30 – 8:30 PM. Refreshments will be served and additional projects and products related to the book will be available and announced.
Fast forward to today. After working through her subconscious untruths, Charlene went on to live her purpose and dreams as a wife, mother, successful business woman, artist, entrepreneur and now author and speaker on the subject of Conscious Living and Conscious Leadership. She was also instrumental as mother and coach in helping her daughter, Megan, work through her own journey of self-discovery and self-assurance as she developed her business leadership skills and her thriving photography business.
Together, they have recently published a children’s book, I AM So I Can which helps parents teach children the power of our thoughts and words in creating self-esteem and success in life. When parents are empowered with the information that is taught simply and beautifully through statements and photographs in this book, they can help their children know and create from the truth of who they really are.
The public is invited to celebrate the launch of their book; I AM, So I Can, on Monday, November 2, 2009 at the Salt Lake City Library, fourth floor conference room, from 6:30 – 8:30 PM. Refreshments will be served and additional projects and products related to the book will be available and announced.
Monday, October 12, 2009
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